Season 1,

Episode 13: Modesty as an Act of Charity

June 11, 2017

We had such a beautiful conversation with blogger, Susan Husband.  Raising seven boys can’t be an easy task, but forming boys to have dignity and respect for women in today’s hyper sexualized culture brings another set of  opportunities.  Let’s use the word opportunities instead of challenges cause we gotta start seeing the positive beauty of who we are again.  Susan speaks to the beauty to which women are drawn to and their role to share that beauty to the world.  Rightly ordered beauty and appreciation of beauty is a wonderful gift to be cherished.  We’d love to hear how you have found ways to walk in modesty as a woman, to encourage your girls to be modest, and to teach your boys to uphold and fight for the dignity of women.

Our Guest:


Susan Husband is a farm wife and mama to seven ornery boys.  Cold beer, long country runs, and Jesus rescue her from the dirt, testosterone, and laundry that breeds while she sleeps. When she isn’t cooking, homeschooling, cooking, running or cooking, you can find her on the porch reading “Boys: Why Everything is a Gun and Other Mysteries” or blogging at Sole Searching Mama. You can find and follow Susan at TwitterFB, Instagram. and she blogs at Sole Searching Mama


Show Notes:

  • Susan referenced an older blog post on the subject matter – you can find it here.
  • The story of St. Rose of Lima

Call to Action – 

Are there areas in our life where we can model modesty to our peers and our children?  

Scripture – 

“Let us then pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.” – Romans 14:19

Saint Quote – 

“When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.” Ven. Archbishop Fulton Sheen


  1. Ellen says:

    I am interested in the standards you have regarding modesty with your daughters; like do you have specific parameters (shorts need to be fingertip length, collars can be no lower than this, can they wear a sleeveless dress, etc.?). I find modestly to be a very fluid problem. Obviously, what I consider modest for my daughter on the beach is not appropriate at the grocery store, etc. I thought that the rule for shorts would be to do the knee, but I find myself allowing fingertip length shorts (which is the length that her Catholic school allows on dress down days). It’s even more difficult with her because she is so small I find that I have to buy a size down for the clothes to stay up (even with elastic waists), but that also means the shorts than hit higher. Also, I am 6 feet tall with a 37 inch inseam. Obviously, a dress that would hit most people below the knee hits well above on me. So, I find myself wearing a lot of opaque tights or leggings with shorter dresses, but I trek from store to store and shop online and that is usually the best I can do and I am sure that someone might look at me and say I am possibly being immodest. It’s not for a lack of trying or effort. But sometimes it’s literally the best I can do. And even when I know that I am in something completely fine (maxi skirt, modest shirt, nothing inappropriate) I notice that sometimes men can look in a way that makes me uncomfortable.

  2. admin says:

    Hey there, Ellen! Modesty is so tough. This topic, if not handled correctly, can divide like minded people very quickly. People become very judgemental and very offended very quickly. Yuck – no one likes those sorts of conversations.
    Putting actual “rules” around what people should and shouldn’t wear becomes a matter of personal discernment. It can be very situational also. One should always be asking themselves what their heart’s motives are behind what they are wearing also.
    Modesty is a virtue that also flows from chastity. So both men and women should both be seeking purity of mind and heart to stay chaste in deed and action. Gotta gotta gotta be teaching the truth about the beauty of our bodies to ourselves and our children. Boys and men to see women in their dignity and beauty rather than a sex object only.
    Regardless, there will always be persons who look at other persons in a very uncomfortable /sexual way. We can only be responsible for ourselves, for teaching our children truth, goodness, and beauty, and for praying for others who are bound by the sins of lust. This culture is so very tough right now.
    God Bless,

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