Category: Father Wound

This is our final episode of peeling back the onion of the father wound. If you’ve listened to the previous episodes, a father wound can really relate to any wound from many different types of trauma. Since this is the Lead the Conversation piece of our podcast series, this is where we address questions and comments from our treasured listeners. And because neither Megan nor Becky are licensed professionals, they decided to bring in a little bit of back-up. Well, alot of back-up. Candice Ruttner-Duryea is a licensed marriage and family therapist/psychologist specializing in trauma care. She has done an amazing job partnering with Sonja Corbitt and walking through the science behind what Sonja shares in her Healing the Father Wound series. From denial to playing the victim, we get down to the nitty gritty this week with Candice. Please make sure you watch the youTube videos in the show notes along with catching Sonja’s series on the father wound.

Candice Ruttner-Duryea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Candice offers therapy for individuals, couples and families at her private practice in San Diego, California.

With over 15 years of experience as a marriage and family therapist and as a graduate of Loma Linda University specializing in Eating Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, and Children, she is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients.

Candice offers a highly personalized approach tailored to each client based on their needs. She provides the support and practical feedback needed to help clients effectively address personal challenges. Candice offers a wide range of emotional and behavioral therapy services that span from depression and grief counseling, parenting support, couples counseling, and more. She is dedicated to help each client attain the personal growth they are striving for and will work diligently until that is accomplished.

Candice is married and has 3 beautiful children.

Show Notes:

Last week we introduced you all to the topic of what is called a father wound.  John Finch talked about this father effect and shared how his absent father caused a wound that led to very unhealthy coping mechanisms. This week, we are so thankful to have Sonja Corbitt with us to start the journey of healing the father wound. Sonja is currently running a radio series (also available via podcast) about healing the father wound. Ladies, this part of the conversation is what will help us to move forward but first, we have to go backward. Please remember that this pain is meant to heal, so do not lose hope friends. There is hope in the One and the Only, Jesus Christ. There is no redemption without the cross.  There is no Easter Sunday without Good Friday. Rest in Christ and His love for you through this process.

 

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Show Notes:

Call to Action:

This week, focus on taking the time to sit with The Word, the Lord Jesus the Word Incarnate. Learn to LOVE the Word by practicing Lisening, Observing, Verbalizing, and Entrusting Jesus through the Scriptures.

Scripture:

“Be angry, but sin not;
    commune with your own hearts on your beds, and be silent.
 Offer right sacrifices,
    and put your trust in the Lord.” -Psalm 4:4-5

Saint Quote:

“Nothing great is ever achieved without much endurance” – St. Catherine of Siena

As seen on EWTN, John Finch has launched into a ministry of bringing to light The Father Effect. The father wound is no small topic and we here in the trenches feel like it is such an important one.  This interview with John Finch is very powerful and we hope it reaches out to all who need to hear it, men and women. Many people are wounded and hurting dearly but not really sure what is at the root of that pain. We are all wounded on some level because of some one and there is only One that can provide complete healing, Jesus Christ. We are God’s children and He sent the Word Incarnate to bring about our healing and as He has promised over and over in Scripture that He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Our Guest:

 

John Finch,  grew up the youngest of 3 boys in a suburb of Dallas where he lost his father to suicide at age 11. As a young man, John did anything he could to avoid confronting the wounds he suffered as a result of being fatherless. His craving for affirmation from a father who was not there to provide it, led him to seek that affirmation from the world in many unhealthy ways. In an attempt to find value as a man, he created a false persona that left him completely unfulfilled. His life was based on the pursuit of money in order to prove his success and he became a social alcoholic as he strived to be the life of every party and gain the attention of those around him.

It was only when John realized and dealt with the unresolved issues of his father wound that he was able to become truly fulfilled. On April 20th, 2009, he finally came face to face with the issues that drove him to seek approval from a father who was not there to give it to him. By forgiving his father and recognizing what it truly means to be a man by God’s standard, he became a new man, husband and father.

John seeks to break down the barriers that prevent men and women from addressing deep rooted anger and hurt from the wounds they have suffered in this life by candidly and openly sharing his story, his failings, and his path to a new way of life. John’s mission is to educate, encourage and equip men to become the fathers they were created to be, and to help men walk in daily awareness of their significant and lifelong influence as fathers. Through The Father Effect Movie, John shares stories and messages that will move viewers to a new awareness about the everlasting impact of fathers and the importance of forgiveness and openness in the relationships of this world.

John has been married for 23 years. has three daughters and lives in Denton, Texas. He is the founder of The Perfect Father Ministries Inc, a 501(c) non-profit and EncouragingDads.com, a community of people from all of the world who share short stories to encourage dads.

John’s new book, The Father EffectBased on the feature film of the same name, THE FATHER EFFECT is a must-read for the millions of men and women who have lost their fathers through divorce, death, or disinterest.

John Finch always struggled after his father committed suicide when he was eleven, but it wasn’t until he was raising his own three daughters that he truly understood their futures relied on his coming to terms with his difficult past. To move forward, he needed to forgive both his father for choosing to leave, and himself for not being the best father he could be.

This journey led to THE FATHER EFFECT, a book containing practical help for anyone, man or woman, with a deep father wound from losing a dad through divorce, death, or disinterest. Through positive lessons on forgiveness and approachable advice on how to change your legacy as a parent, partner, and person, THE FATHER EFFECT is the ultimate healing tool for anyone who has suffered the absence of a dad.

 

 

 

Show Notes:

 

Call to Action – 

How can we support our husbands and other men in our lives in their roles as a father and also in their role as a son. First, go watch the YouTube video of the short film.  Affirm our spouses, sons, or any other man in our life suffering through a father wound. 

Also for those not married or women who feel they are wounded, go watch the film and ask the Lord to reveal to them any father wound that they may be carrying themselves. We do this so that God may start a mighty work of healing and restoration in our lives.

Scripture – 

 “Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have; for he has said, “I will never fail you nor forsake you.” Hence we can confidently say,

“The Lord is my helper,
I will not be afraid;
what can man do to me?”  Hebrews 13: 5-6

Saint Quote

“Sometimes the only way the good Lord can get into some hearts is to break them.” –Archbishop Fulton Sheen

 

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